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The youth cry
“No tears in the writer, no tears in the reader. No surprise in the writer, no surprise in the reader.” says – Robert Frost
BRIEF HISTORICAL VIEW – BIBLE PERSPECTIVE
Tearful cry is simply crying that is accompanied with tears. If you
ask me,to state the relationship or difference between crying and tears,
I would say they are cousins. While Crying is an expression of emotion,
tears is the bodily manifestation of an inward emotional activity.
Crying is as old as the planet.
There are so many mention of tears in the bible and I am sure in
other religions Islam and the rest cannot be left out. The Shortest
verse in the bible is on this subject . John 11:35 “Jesus Wept”
One of the first bible reference for tears is in the book of Genesis
when Abraham wept over the death of Sarah. Hannah wept before the Lord
in her barren state. Esau wept over his father Isaac, asking for a
blessing. King David writes prolifically in the Psalms of his tears
before the Lord.
The bible provides accounts of tears of grief (as above, also David
weeping over the death of Absalom, others shed tears of repentance, sin
and sorrow. The city of Nineveh wept for their sins, Peter after the
rooster crowed for the third time. Prophet Jeremiah was called the
weeping prophet.
A little away from bible. Crying and tears should not be restrained
and suppressed. It is actually healthful to cry, crying is not a show
of weakness, fear or deficiency. In mine opinion, it is courageous bold
step.
OTHER WRITERS
Culturally, some are of the opinion that crying should be reserved
for the feminine gender. I strongly disagree, because this will robb
the men of the numerous health benefits of real emotional crying from
the heart. Not Nollywood, or movie crying.
Charles Spurgeon in his exposition on Psalm 5 vs 2 in the Treasury
of David stated that “Crying has a voice, a soul moving eloquence coming
from our heart, It reaches God’s heart”
Coming to yourself, How long has it been since you had a good cry
with tears. quite some time I believe, some people see watery eyes as a
sign of weakness. I like the words of Robert Frost on the subject “No
tears in the writer, No tears in the reader, No surprise in the writer,
No surprise in the reader”
But being vulnerable is the best way to grow closer to another person. If everything isn’t okay, don’t say it is.
HEALTH BENEFITS OF CRYING
1. Confronting your feelings helps you move forward in life.
It’s awfully tempting to play it safe in life, but if you don’t take the
occasional risk, you can’t expect much excitement or personal growth.
It isn’t easy to put yourself into a new situation with feelings and
emotions attached (for example: starting a new relationship after being
emotionally damaged in your last one), but just because it isn’t easy
doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it. If you have harsh feelings left over
from love lost, confront them without fear. Don’t try to run and hide
from how you feel. Be still and soak in it. The sooner you confront your
past, the sooner you can move forward into a better future. 2.
2. Expressing your emotions helps you be creative.
“I cry very easily. It can be a movie, a phone conversation, a sunset–tears are words waiting to be written.” – Paulo Coelh
My honest advise is this No matter what you’re going through, be strong and deal with it.
Have a good cry if you need to, it’s healthful, I have tasted it
several times and feel persuaded to write on the subject through this
site having tasted its numerous health benefits .
3. Help Release toxins
Releasing your tears helps you flush out toxins. “Crying is cleansing.
There’s a reason for tears, happiness or sadness.” – Dionne Warwick
A study performed by Dr. William H. Frey II at the St Paul-Ramsey
Medical Centre found that stress-related tears and tears caused by
physical irritants (think chopping an onion) are not one and the same.
Tears that are provoked by stress help your body rid itself of nasty
chemicals that raise cortisol (the stress hormone). In other words:
you’ll feel a whole lot better after the emotional down-pour passes.
Says Judith Orloff MD ” For over twenty years as physician, I have
witnessed, time and again, the healing power of tears, Tears are your
body’s release valve for stress, sadness, grief, anxiety, and
frustration”. Also, you can have tears of joy, say when a child is born
or tears of relief when a difficulty has passed. In mine, own life, I
feel happier after every cry, I feel cleansed, I feel purged of
burdensome emotions, they nolonger lodge in my body as stress symptoms
such as fatigue or pain. I reiterate and recommend moderate crying
when necessary for men and women. Tears are a sign of courage, strenght,
and authenticity. Letting go of your baggage helps you end suffering.
“But a mermaid has no tears, and therefore she suffers so much more.” says – Hans Christian Andersen, The Little Mermaid
Would you rather face your feelings without fear or pretend
everything is okay when it isn’t? Sure, the first option might come with
temporary comfort, but pretending problems don’t exist only delays the
inevitable. You cannot run and hide from how you feel forever, no matter
how hard you try. Carrying all that baggage around is detrimental for
your emotional health, so it’s in your best interest to cry if you need
to. While this won’t necessarily solve your problems, it could help you
come-to-terms with them.
4. Crying helps you deal with emotional stress.
Lemony Snicket says “you know that a good, long session of weeping can
often make you feel better, even if your circumstances have not changed
one bit.”- Lemony Snicket
From the Huffington Post article, “Stress Relief: Why Crying Supports Emotional Wellness”
Professor Roger Baker, a consultant clinical psychologist and visiting
professor at Bournemouth University, told the UK’s Daily Mail that
“crying is the transformation of distress into something tangible, and
that the process itself helps to reduce the feeling of trauma.”
Have you ever felt sad for no reason? Emotions aren’t always logical.
Letting your emotion take hold of you, whether that results in crying
or not, could help you find the reason behind your tears. And when
you’re aware of the problem that requires your attention, you’ll be free
to find an antidote for the stress that ails you.
5. Weeping helps you come to terms with a loss.
“To weep is to make less the depth of grief.” – William Shakespeare
Losing a family member, friend, partner, or pet is one of the worst
things anyone could ever go through. In situations like this, words
don’t suffice. Sometimes the only thing you can do is hug someone you
love and let the tears flow.
6. Having a good cry helps you feel better.
“What soap is for the body, tears are for the soul.” – Jewish Proverb
A study performed at the University of Florida found that crying is
more effective than any antidepressant on the market. A good cry
improved the mood of 88.8% of weepers with only 8.4% reporting that
crying made them feel worse.
7. Crying makes you strong.
“There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but
of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are
the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of
unspeakable love.” – Washington Irvin
8. Being Vulnerable helps you connect with others:
While I’m not advocating that we go around crying all the time just
for the sake of it. Excessive crying can sometimes point to a more
serious underlying emotional issue and/or can be done as a way to
manipulate others. I’m not talking about that either. I’m talking
about our ability to express our emotions in a real and vulnerable way,
some of the time resulting in the shedding of our tears. What if we
embraced crying a bit more and let go of our negative connotations about
doing so? As Charles Dickens beautifully said, “We need never be
ashamed of our tears.”
Even though we may resist, fear, and avoid crying – at work, with
friends or family, with members of the opposite sex, with our children,
or with anyone else, we worry it wouldn’t be “appropriate” to cry in
front of, there are some real positive benefits to shedding tears.
9. Crying is good for our physical and emotional health – Medical
research now suggests that tears could actually be a way of flushing
negative chemicals out of the body and doing us a world of good
physically. In addition to removing toxic substances from our body,
crying can also have the psychological benefit of lifting our mood and
helping us to deal with painful situations.
10•Shedding tears reduces,mental, physical and Psychological stress –
Crying is thought to help reduce the effect of many forms of stress,
which can have a damaging effect on our health and has been linked to a
number of health problems including heart disease, high blood pressure,
type-2 diabetes and obesity. According to a study by Dr. William H. Frey
II, a biochemist at the St Paul-Ramsey Medical Center in Minnesota,
crying can help to wash chemicals linked to stress out of our body, one
of the reasons we feel much better after a good cry.
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When we cry we open up, let down our guard, and connect with others
in a more real and vulnerable way I’ve seen tears dramatically shift a
person’s perspective, change the dynamic of an argument. Tears have a
way of breaking down emotional walls and mental barriers we put up
within ourselves and towards others. Crying tends to be some kind of
human equalizer, because no matter the circumstance, situation, or
stress we may face, our tears have a way of shifting and altering things
in a beautiful, vulnerable, and humbling way.
There’s nothing wrong with our tears, even if we get a little
embarrassed, uncomfortable, or even pained when they show up. As we
allow them to flow through us, we not only release toxins from our body,
stress from our system, and thoughts from our mind – we tap into one of
the most basic and unifying experiences of being human. Crying is
powerful and important – let’s have the courage to do it with pride and
support each other in the healthy expression of our tears.
Finally, Let us learn from our saviour Jesus, for He wept himself, Go
on and cry if there is a cause for it. There is a bottle reserved by
the Creator of heaven and earth for geniune tears from the heart and he
honours them HIMSELF. In Psalm 56:9 the psalmist declared, When I cry
unto thee, then shall mine enemies turn back: this I know; for God is
for me.”
There is much depravity in our days because of few crying men, Again
David declared, in Psalm 55:17 Evening, and morning and at noon, will I
pray, and cry aloud: and he shall hear my voice”
David was a man after God’s heart, God’s men understands the benefits
of crying, no blood pressure, hypertension, headaches and the like.
including all the enemies of our health. When I cry unto thee, then
shall mine enemies turn back. more posts coming on this
Tears I feel is so powerful that it seems to me contagious, there is
something that makes you want to cry or breaks you when you behold real
emotional tears.
Remember tearful crying knows no tribesman:
The Whites cry
The Blacks cry
The aged cry
The youths cry
men cry
women cry
Children cry
The poor cry and
The rich also cry
So welcome to our world
Would you rather start or stop crying
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